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"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give -- which is everything."

Photo AlbumKey West, Florida (Oct. 17 and 18)Oct 23, '09 8:51 PM
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I walked through the shops of Duval Street again on Sunday morning after my morning coffee and rum cake. Found another bookstore and got a couple of books. Eat, Pray, Love and Night. Brian and I went to Dennis Cafe for breakfast. Yummy food.

Sunday afternoon was supposed to be Snorkelling Day but it was cancelled because the water was too choppy so we (Jamie&Cathy, Joe&Jen, Brian and I)decided to go to the beach. We reached the southernmost tip of Key West, that tip being just 90 miles away from Cuba. Unfortunately, the beach in Key West is not very nice. :( I have never walked for so long in my life. We approximately walked 5 miles going from one beach to another, to other stops then finally to Half-Raw to meet up with the rest of the gang to have some good seafood and beer for the night.

We went to the Butterfly and Nature Conservatory. Butterflies are beautiful. I just love them!

We went back to the Whistle Bar again Sunday night while waiting for the karaoke at Rick's to open. There's a small sausage stand that sells tasty sausages and bratworst right below the Whistle Bar and we can't just pass that up. We had some good times at Rick's. Brian went up the stage to sing! Was with Jen, Joe, Michelle, Nate and Jame. It was awesome!

Photo AlbumKey West, Florida (Oct 16 & 17)Oct 22, '09 6:46 PM
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Touchdown Miami International Airport at 9:21am Friday. Picked up the rental car and had brunch at Denny's. It's about a 4-hour drive from Miami to Key West considering very light traffic and a couple of pee stops. We passed through a few bridges including the 7-mile bridge, thankfully it's a newer bridge.

Got to Key West around 4:30pm and a cuban sandwich right away and the group walked to Mallory Square -where the famous sunset celebration happens. It was packed but the weather felt great and the sunset was beautiful. The squares have stalls selling different kinds of stuff, from picture frames to jewelries. There were also performers here and there around the square.

Sloppy Joe's is where the famous Ernest Hemingway used to write.

Saturday morning we had a continental breakfast and for my love of books, I walked through Eaton St. to check out Voltaire Books. The bookstore has a good collection but was pricey. Everything in Key West is pricey, I realized that soon enough. :)

Holly and Frank's wedding was beautiful. It was the most relaxed wedding I have been to, by far. Very sweet and short but it definitely touched my heart. A few, if not all had that teary moment. And Dylan is a very well-behaved ring bearer. It was really cute! And I must say that Holly is a very hands-on bride and she loves it. She hanged all those stars up using a ladder, on her wedding day!

We stayed at the Old Town Manor just a few steps away from Duval Street. The bed and breakfast is very pretty and haunted. Haha! It's was built in 1886 and is owned by a physician and a florist. One of the rooms in the main house was believed to be a surgery room where not all patients survived. Brian and I together with 3 other couples including the bride and groom stayed at the two-storey Carriage House just by the courtyard.

It was definitely a fun wedding and trip! More pictures coming...

*For some reason the caption functionality is not working. :p

Blog EntryOct 15, '09 3:54 PM
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I am not much of a traveler. In my younger days, I used to like to go to places a lot just to go, I guess. I have gone to quite a few places before I was out of college but they're mostly for the purpose of serving the church and family business. For fun reasons, ask Mom and Dad. I'm smiling, alright. I was a student. Access Denied. Still smiling...  

To the few places I have visited, I have not really observed much nor have I gone to interesting places. You see, all the times I have had the chance to be sent to serve the church were set by rules to be 'followed' not to be strict but to note that our attention should be for what we came there for. So, I guess it was only in Lanao del Norte where the pack was able to visit 'Dapit-Alim' (literally means 'A place for Healing' which was amazing) and it's not even a place to have fun but a place for worship. But no regrets of some sort there, it felt great to worship there.  

Fast forward to mid-twenties, I've gone to Bohol, Kawasan Falls, Moalboal, Barili purely for fun. It was awesome, probably my happiest times. There was not really much culture to observe but at least I wish I could have observed how different people are, morals, traditions considered compared to those in the City. For my trip to Bohol, my friends and I had gone to lots and lots of tourist spots but I wish I had tried authentic Bohol food, aside from Calamay. I would like to go back to those places again and have a written account of what little observations I have. My sister is really good in this area.

Where else? I can't even remember much...  

But it's time to go to Keywest, Florida tomorrow (we got invited to a friend's wedding and Key West is there destination wedding, all expenses paid except for the plane tickets) and I am bringing a pad and pen! I am documenting!  

I would like to enjoy travelling more, not just the itch to get there because I'm gonna throw up if it's gonna take any longer, not just the idea of being able to unpack my bag, putting stuff in the closet. (My OCD follows me!) Worry about if my clothes are wrinkled and if the water is safe or settle down with a book in the back porch. I would like to test how adventurous I can go in Key West, how observant I am because Key West would probably be just once in a lifetime.  

I heard that Duval Street in Key West is the most interesting street there, I wonder what that means. We'll see!  

Wish me luck! :)

Blog EntrySep 28, '09 10:18 AM
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Hello Everyone, 

Due to so many social networks I'm in (lol), I will not be updating multiply as much anymore. I have been invisibly blogging in my blogspot account since April. And this account has been idling. hehe

All of you might have already added me in facebook, you can see quick updates there since I mainly use it for games. You can also follow me in twitter (username: boozaub). As for pictures, I'm going back to print-out and putting them in albums or picture boxes, except maybe for some. 

I will check multiply for blogs to read and pictures to see. =)

Blog EntrySep 23, '09 9:12 AM
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I love the rain...

But when it starts to flood or when it becomes a threat to the people, that's when I start looking up to the heavens and ask God to stop sending it down. 

It was an epic deluge for the state of Georgia two days ago. The torrential downpour started on Sunday night but it had been raining everyday, here and there over the last week. Several counties have been in flood warnings since Saturday night and Monday was a disaster. Watching the news gave me a certain 'kirot ng puso'. We have up to 9 deaths as of today and several people still missing due to the flood. Bridges were taken over by water, as well as so many houses. There was even one house that while it has already been flooded caught on fire. The fire rescue team was quick enough to get there but because the water was so high, the fire truck was submerged. Sad. 

GA Governor Sonny Perdue has asked Pres. Obama to declare an emergency assistance to the 17 counties of Georgia that got hit by flooding. Most insurance companies, if not all do not offer flood coverage, not after Hurricane Katrina. Sadly.

It has not rained since Monday afternoon and we welcome the sun with open arms. =) 

Brian said, "Well, I thought the forecast said it's gonna rain til Wednesday and chances of rain til Sunday." This was Monday afternoon as we were stopping to check out the creek by the house which wasn't overflowing, thank God but it was high enough. Probably about 4-5 feet higher.

"Well, God answers prayers, you know... I'm pretty sure many people are praying for the rain to stop."  I was smiling...thoughtfully... because wasn't Georgia in bad drought two summers ago, and even this last summer we were still in sort of water shortage?

It's funny how... but AWESOME is my God. :)

Blog EntryAug 26, '09 7:12 AM
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tuh-wahn-tuh-peker

It is a violent mountain-gap wind traveling along Chivela Pass. It originates in the Bay of Campeche as a northerly wind which crosses the isthmus and blows through the gap between the Mexican and Guatemalan mountains. The synoptic condition is associated with high forming in Sierra Madre. The wind reaches 20–40kt and on occasions 100kt. The outflow may form rope cloud over the Gulf of Tehuantepec. These winds can be observed on satellite pictures such as scatterometer winds measurements, they influence waves, propagating as swell and sometimes observed 1000 miles away (e.g., in Galapagos Islands). These strong winds bring cooler sub-surface waters and may last 4–7 days. (Source: www.wikipedia.org)

A weather channel quick pick-up before leaving for work. The news guy asked one of the ladies what the word means and she said, instead, "Tehuantepec on the cheek?" :p :p

Photo AlbumI am sewing!Aug 8, '09 12:50 PM
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I made my first sewing project last night, a knitting needle case. Holly, whom I met through Brian's friend Frank taught me how to sew.

I was pretty excited as the sewing session was coming up. I did so bad with Home Econ. in Senior High, (wala kaha nako gihuman akong project with Mdm. Flores. Have a brek have a ketkat.) that I really wanna make up for it in this lifetime. She graded my project though coz no one knew it wasn't finished (nganung gipabutang sa folder with plastic cover? hehe). My thesis was so much more important that sewing didn't really count unless I wanted to be a seamstress after high school, right? I was just trying to graduate. hahaha

Last night was a success because I finished my project (Mdm. will be proud of me. lol) and I did well. We got a couple of mistakes to where the other ribbon is attached to the wrong side, they are suppose to go in one side together. We also missed the flap on the top part to hold the needles in their sleeves. :D But my finished project is not that bad, it does the job of my need for a case.

One of the reasons that I wanna sew is because I refuse to pay $20 on a knitting needle case and I was flabbergasted when it cost me $275 just to alter my wedding dress just to adjust the length and re-attach the beads!

I can't wait to make my next project! =)

Materials :
2 parts fabric of the same size
1 part fabric for the sleeves
fabric lining
ribbons

Lessons:
1. Before you start sewing, you have to press the fabric so that it's flat. (Mdm Flores you failed on this part. *sad face)

2. Press the folded edges to make it easier for when running the sewing machine.

3. Always use safety pins to keep the fabric together and you can sew over the pins. :)




Blog EntryAug 7, '09 7:55 AM
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I just signed up http://www.goodreads.com (thanks to ced again for posting this link in her blog).

This website is like shelfari, I had an account there but the website is so buggy. You have to reset your password everytime. :( I have no choice but to abandon it. I have a quite huge collection of books and I want to be able to have a record of it via the web, not just on an excel file. :)

Goodreads looks to be promising in the sense that I didn't have to reset my password. lol I am seeing lots and lots of reviews.

So sign up, people and add me to your friends list!


Thank you, Ced for sharing.

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..." — Elizabeth Gilbert




Blog EntryJul 21, '09 7:03 AM
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The default channel of the Booher house is --The Weather Channel thus the HABOOB. Today, the weatherman is asking people in New York what a haboob is. Some say it's tiger OR a wild zebra or they just laugh. What is a haboob, anyway? 

Courtesy of Wikipedia:
A haboob is a type of intense sandstorm commonly observed in the Sahara desert (typically Sudan), as well as across the Arabian Peninsula, throughout Kuwait, and in the most arid regions of Iraq.[1] African haboobs result from the northward summer shift of the inter-tropical front into North Africa, bringing moisture from the Gulf of Guinea.

When this downdraft, or "downburst", reaches the ground, dry, loose sand from the desert settings is essentially blown up, creating a wall of sediment preceding the storm cloud. This wall of sand can be up to 100 km (60 miles) wide and several kilometers in elevation. At their strongest, haboob winds can travel at 35-50 km/h (20-30 mph), and they may approach with little to no warning.

***Eye and respiratory system protection are advisable for anyone who must be outside during a haboob -- moving to a place of shelter is highly desirable during a strong event.

A massive haboob is close to enveloping a military camp as it rolls over Al Asad, Iraq, just before nightfall on April 27, 2005.




Blog EntryJul 16, '09 7:47 AM
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Coffee Overflow, Mess, Cleaning when the paper towel is soaked with coffee and there's no extra roll that I can find anywhere - that will wake you up. 

For 2 days straight, I didn't bring my own coffee.. Too lazy to brew coffee on those mornings (which only a couple knows why) so for the past 2 days I've been brewing coffee at work. When I came back the coffee maker it OVERFLOWED, all over the counter down to the floor. What the hell!? Ok fine, let's clean it. So i brewed one pack again and the thing is LEAKING. Hello? New coffeemaker, please. 



Blog EntryJul 8, '09 7:43 AM
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It is very sad how your life on earth ended, it shouldn't have been that way. It's sickening that somebody dared but I know that you have been a bringer of heaven to earth for years and years and still is/was moments before you passed. You must have already been in heaven by now. :) 

God Speed, Fr. Botoy...


Blog EntryJun 24, '09 2:41 PM
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aubrey: hey babe, can i have a puppy?
booherb: Dili uy


It's quite a long article but I really enjoyed reading it. :)

He’s not a small-talk kind of guy. There’s not even a hello or a handshake when I walk in. There is no acknowledgment of any kind. He’s at his desk, shuffling through papers, doesn’t even look up. I stand there a while, foolishly, then take a seat in front of his desk. Still nothing. He takes a call, hangs up. Doesn’t look up once to make eye contact. I wait.

Barney Frank has been plugging away in Congress for more than a quarter century now, fighting the good fight through “too many” Republican administrations. He was the first congressman to come out of the closet (voluntarily), in 1987, and two years later was publicly humiliated by a sex scandal (remember that live-in hustler?) that nearly ruined him. These days he’s chairman of the House Financial Services Committee, and he’s dealing, every day, with an epidemic of foreclosures and simmering rage over executive compensation and regulation-averse senators. So his brusqueness is well earned. We meet with him just before the credit-card reform bill he sponsored became law—consumer protection is one of the many causes he’s fought for for years—to talk about his agenda, his relationship with Barack Obama, Arlen Specter’s defection, and his much (much) younger boyfriend. But first he needs to look up from his desk.

*****

Take your time.
[Takes another call.] Let me get back to you. I’ll call you back.[Hangs up. Takes another call, this time from his secretary.]Who is Mr. Mueller? Okay, yeah. I’m just too busy to get involved in that. [Hangs up. A few more seconds pass, some rearranging of paper, and then, finally, he looks up.] Okay, please go ahead.

So I guess you have a lot going on right now.
Yeah.

I was just asking one of your staffers what was on the agenda for you this week—
A very big week. We will be voting on a bill to reform the granting of subprime mortgages, where there’s been a major Democrat and Republican fight. Um, it’s really the single biggest cause of the financial crisis: mortgages going to people who shouldn’t have them. We’ve been trying to stop that.

Stop it or undo it? 
Undoing it and stopping it are two separate things. The easier thing to do conceptually is to stop it from going forward and having it happen again. As to trying to diminish the number of foreclosures, there are programs to do that, but that’s tougher, because once people have made contracts, you can’t just change it. We are trying to get the bankruptcy law changed. That would be the biggest single thing. But the Senate has not yet gone along with that. Ironically, the Republicans, some of them, have said, “Oh, you Democrats, you made us give them to poor people, and that’s what caused the trouble.” The answer is no, we have been trying to put some rules in place to stop this, and we tried when we were the minority. Didn’t work. When we got into the majority in 2007, we passed a bill to stop it, but it got bogged in the Senate. It was a partisan thing. So now we’re trying again this year. And with a Democratic president and a Democratic Senate, we think we can get it done.

When you look at this mess, how do you see it ending?
I think…As a national economic crisis, I think by the end of this year it winds down. A lot of people are still gonna be hurt, people who’ve lost their homes and lost value. And how it ends is, housing prices go down; people begin to buy the houses which have now become so cheap—and the interest rates are so low—that it starts to go back up again that way.

But what about people who are selling too cheap and losing all their money?
Well, I said some people are gonna get hurt. I just said that. The number one thing that has to be done is to try to reduce the foreclosures. That’s the single biggest thing.

Did you read Paul Krugman today?
Not yet.

He was writing about how the pay on Wall Street is back up, the bonuses are back up. How is that happening?
Well, it’s about the free-enterprise system, and that’s the way America has always worked. In 2006, I tried to deal with that, and the Republicans said no. We passed a bill on it in 2007; it didn’t pass in the Senate. But that’s free enterprise. People are gonna make as much money as they can unless there’s a rule that says they can’t.

Except that—as Krugman pointed out today, which was interesting—it’s one thing when it’s free enterprise, but it’s quite another when—
No, you’re asking me to justify it. I’m not justifying it.

No, I’m not—
Please. I have to have one rule: If you want me to explain something, and if you’re gonna assume that when I explain it I support it, then I can’t explain it to you.

Oh no, I don’t at all.
Well, your question—

I’m just angry about it, I guess…
The rules are, you can pay as much as you want. Now we have put some restrictions on the compensation. We want to put some more on. Again, the House passed a bill that’s pending in the Senate to do this. Going forward, I want to pass legislation that will do two things. First of all, the shareholders get to vote on whether they like the pay package. It wouldn’t be binding, but I don’t think many companies would reject what the shareholders said if they thought it was too high. Secondly, we have to have rules—and this is the worst part of it: It’s not just that they make too much money, but the incentive structure is wrong. If you are one of these top people and you make a gamble with the company’s money and it pays off, you get extra money. But if you make a gamble with the company’s money and the company 
loses money, you don’t lose any money. Heads you win, tails you break even. Well, if I told you that if you took a risk and if it paid off, you would get money, but if it failed you wouldn’t lose anything, what would you do? Take another risk. So we’re gonna have to put rules in to stop that.

Do you feel optimistic about that, though?
Fifty-fifty.

What’s going to be the hardest fight?
I think getting…The hardest, most important thing is getting the authority in the federal government to say that nobody can take so much risk with so little capital to back it up that they become a threat to the whole system. So that no one can be in the position of Lehman Brothers or AIG, where they can’t meet their obligations and we have two bad choices: either we let them go bust and it has terrible consequences for everybody else, like Lehman Brothers, or we have to bail out their creditors.

How much does Bill Clinton deserve blame for—
Oh, very little. The bad loans, subprime loans, are the cause of this.
 [Pulls out a chart.] This is a chart as to what percentage of overall loans were subprime loans that went bad. Of the loans that went bad, what percentage were subprime loans? Look at that chart. Look when it starts to spike. [It starts to spike in 2003.] And here, this one too. [He pulls out another chart.]Loans in foreclosure by type. They’re all together, and then the subprimes—

Start to spike in 2003.
We gotta make our argument to the Republicans. Many of us wanted to build affordable rental housing for low-income people. They said, “Oh, rental housing is not good; it’s bad for people’s spirits. We want them to become homeowners.” So the Bush administration pushed hard to make people homeowners, and that was the result.

When you look back at decisions you made regarding banking and regulation, what would you do differently?
I would have pressed harder for regulation of hedge funds and other things. We tried. But the whole Senate was against us. And, uh, we did try hard on subprime. We got shut down. I guess regulating hedge funds, derivatives, I backed off too easy because of the opposition. I don’t think we would have succeeded, but we should have pushed harder.

You don’t think you could have succeeded?
No. Senate members overwhelmingly don’t regulate, as recently as two and a half years ago. I became the chairman of the committee in waiting in 2006, and overwhelmingly I was told by people, “Oh, you gotta deregulate, you gotta relax, you’re driving business overseas.” I wanted to regulate hedge funds. Make them register with the Securities and Exchange Commission. A lot of Democrats said, “Oh, don’t! Jeez, if you file that out and take a position, please don’t make me do that. You can’t win anyway.” So I dropped it. I should have pushed harder.

At the end of the day, how much treasury money do you think is going to be spent fixing, bailing out—
Not nearly as much as you may think.
 [pause] Much less than the 700 billion we put out. We’ll get most of that back.

That’s good news if that’s true.
Let’s put it this way: much, much, much, much less than the war in Iraq. See, it troubles me when people talk about all this deficit spending. The biggest single thing that added to the deficit was the war in Iraq, which I thought was a bad mistake as a war anyway. That cost us a trillion dollars.

What is your relationship with the president?
Oh, very good. Because I think he’s very smart and able, and I am in a position where we work closely. He’s got three major domestic objectives: health care, global warming, and financial regulation. And by my committee chairmanship, I’m in one of those. 
[Points to a picture on the wall of him, Obama, and another guy.]

Nice picture.
That’s my boyfriend on the end.

Oh, is that—his name is Jim?
Yeah.

He’s handsome.
Yeah.

A lot younger than you.
Thirty years.

Do you want to marry him?
I won’t talk about that in public.

Okay, fair enough. But I’m curious how you feel about where gay marriage is right now. Is it disappointing that you now have this young Democratic president, this young black Democratic president, who still won’t come out for—
Not really. Because he’s been so good on everything else. And, uh, I understand the political reality. I was not in favor of his coming out for same-sex marriage when he first got elected. But I would hope he would be by the time he runs for reelection.

You would hope he would be, but you weren’t in favor of him doing so in 2008?
I think it would have given the opposition help they didn’t need.

So do you think Obama doesn’t really feel that there shouldbe same-sex marriage? Or was it just a political—
I don’t know what’s in his heart of hearts. I do know that it was…The general view, which I shared, was that no one who wanted to get elected president could have been a supporter of same-sex marriage. On the other hand, things have moved very far since then, and I’m more optimistic about 2012 than I was about same-sex marriage.

When you look back, some of the things that have happened, like Larry Craig—what did you think when his arrest became public, given what he put you through? [Craig was one of the Republican house members who voted to censure Frank during his scandal in 1989, when a prostitute Frank had dated claimed he had run a sex-for-money business out of Frank’s house.] 
Well, I’m just reminded of, uh, what a terrible thing it is to feel you have to hide your sexuality. I did myself for too many years.

Why did you decide to reveal it?
Because I was goin’ nuts not being out. Because I wasn’t able to have a satisfying personal life. In fact, I got involved with a hustler. Well, that was because I…When I came out, it was voluntary. I had no reason to think he was going to do anything, but I just couldn’t live a normal life. There is a view that gay and lesbian people have had historically—I hope they don’t still have it—that “I can’t be honest about my sexuality.” You realize, when 
we are honest about our sexuality, it’s called coming out; when straight people are honest about theirsexuality, it’s called talking. Because everybody talks about their sexuality all the time. But, um, there was this view that “Oh, well, I won’t have a great private life, but I’ll have a career that will make up for it.” In my experience, that just damagesyour career, because there are emotions and needs that you want to express in your private life, and if you can’t express them in your private life, they’ll poison your public life. So I did it just out of…I was aware it would be good politically for the gay and lesbian community. But the main reason was, I couldn’t live that way anymore. I was tired of not being able to meet guys or having to hide a relationship. I just wanted to end it.

Do you think you’d have survived your scandal today? 
I don’t know. Dave Vitter seems to be surviving.

But has it gotten nastier out there?
It has. The media’s gotten more aggressive, and the partisanship has increased. One of the things that happened was Newt Gingrich came to town, and Newt explicitly and specifically said, Look, this is nonsense about we’re friends. We are enemies. He specifically said, It is a mistake to say that the Democrats are honorable people with whom we disagree. They are traitors. They are corrupt. They are immoral. And things clearly deteriorated, didn’t they?

Is there such a thing as bipartisanship? Can it work?
Oh, sure. It does a lot of times. You guys just don’t pay attention to it when it does. A 
lot of what we do is bipartisan. I think bipartisanship means you recognize the differences. You are together with the people with whom you agree, but you don’t let the legitimate differences poison your ability to work together when there are no differences. And by the way, look, it was the Bush administration—Hank Paulson and Ben Bernanke—who came to the Democratic Congress last year and said, The economy is about to fall apart. We need you to help us.

Do you see any danger in one-party rule?
Nope. Not necessarily. And first of all, for the Republicans to claim that is totally hypocritical, since it didn’t bother them when it was them—No, I think there’s more danger in having nobody in charge and nobody to be held responsible. I don’t think the New Deal was a bad period in American history, and that was the Democrats in charge.

But when you put yourself back in 2002, when Republicans ruled the world, you didn’t think that was very healthy. 
No, but it wasn’t healthy because I disagree with their policies. I never argued that there was something inherently wrong with people winning elections.

What’s your relationship like with Larry Summers?
Pretty good. I’ve known him for a long time.

Is it unfair that people call him arrogant?
No. It’s not unfair that people call 
me arrogant. We’re both arrogant.

Okay.
Look, arrogance is kind of a trait—I will say this about Larry and hope I’d say it about myself: There’s kind of a predisposition to be a little brusque with people. But I don’t think it has interfered with his ability to listen and be flexible. I don’t think it’s a dysfunctional trait.

When you look at him and Geithner, are they less beholden to Wall Street than the Bush guys were?
Oh, sure.

How?
Because they work for Obama. There’s no such thing as Summers and Geithner; there’s Obama. They are extensions of him. And he is much less—not beholden to Wall Street, philosophically in tune with them. George Bush was in tune with “Don’t regulate.” Barack Obama is not. It’s a big philosophical difference.

What’s Bush’s legacy going to be?
It’s a sad one. It’s a huge deficit and a devaluing of our ability to come together as a people and solve problems. And the financial crisis—this is their deregulation.

Where do you think the GOP is right now?
Floundering badly. I think what you have is, the dominant voice right now is a very conservative voice that doesn’t really have a significant following in the country as a whole. Dick Cheney is announcing that Rush Limbaugh is a much better Republican than Colin Powell. Well, that sounds like something the Democrats would want to say.

Let’s talk about Arlen Specter.
What about him?

I’m curious what you think about his decision. 
Well, as a Democrat, I’m glad to have him. But as an elected official, I have to say I don’t think he did our profession any good. First of all, to announce that it was done purely so he could survive. Secondly, his performance since then has been very disappointing. In particular, what troubled me was when he was quoted as saying, “Well…” In terms of no Jewish Republicans, the answer should have been, Who cares? That’s not a relevant issue. But then, when he said, Oh, but I’m confident the courts in Minnesota will do justice to Norm Coleman, and then said, Oh, I forgot which side I’m on!—
forget about forgetting which side he’s on. What that says is, his view of what the law should be depends on what party he’s in. This notion that your view of what’s an appropriate legal decision depends on your party is shocking for a guy who’s supposed to be this great lawyer.

What do you think it’s going to be like having him on your side? 
Well, so far, look, it’ll mean he’ll vote with the Democrats more often. But there’s an erratic behavior pattern there that’s very troubling. I think at this point it’s entirely reasonable for some Democrats to think about challenging him.

How do you feel about what Nancy Pelosi knew, torture-wise, and when she knew it?
I sympathize with her for this reason: I’ve been in that position. You get briefed, you are told something in absolute confidence, and you can’t share it with anybody, and you’re not necessarily prepared to handle it. It’s really a way to shut you up. I was given that choice once. I was invited, when I was senior Democrat in the minority on the Financial Services Committee, to a briefing by two young guys from the Treasury Department. I got there—after divesting myself outside of my cell phone and my wallet and everything else—and they said, “We’re gonna show you something that’s gonna be in the newspaper in a couple weeks, and we want to tell you about it.” I said, “Why is it gonna be in the newspaper? Is this something you’re announcing?” “Oh no.” And it became clear to me, as we talked, it was something that had been leaked, and they were happy that it was being leaked, but they were gonna tell me about it beforehand. And I said, “Well, let me ask you this question. If I listen to you now and read what you want to show me, and it then appears in the newspapers, can I talk about it after it’s been in the newspaper?” They said no. I said good-bye. And so I think that’s what happened to Nancy. She was given information in a way that she literally couldn’t use, could not self-evaluate, because she was all by herself. In fact, she and I have talked about this, and some others. We have to change these rules about what you can do with briefing information.

There’s a new movie out called Outrage, about closeted politicians. Do you still adhere to Barney Frank’s Rule about outing? 
Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I wouldn’t do it myself, but I think people who are hypocrites…The way I put it is, there’s a right to privacy but not to hypocrisy. Sarah Brady—you know who she is?

Yeah, James Brady’s wife—
Suppose you found out that she owned an Uzi. Would you think that should be public?

Absolutely. 
Same point. Or if a leading antiabortion person had a family member with an abortion. Or vice versa, or if a Democrat’s a tax evader. It’s hypocrisy.

Well, it sounds like the number one hypocrite in this movie is Charlie Crist. 
I haven’t seen it, so I don’t know. I will say, without commenting on Crist, he has been much less antigay guy than a lot of others. So if it’s…You know, I differentiate between secrecy and hypocrisy. I think it becomes a problem when you’re a hypocrite and you’re a gay-basher.

When is it inappropriate to out someone?
If they’re not being antigay themselves. I think people have a right to privacy. But I don’t think you have a right to engage in an activity yourself and then try to make other people’s lives miserable for engaging in it. There’s no philosophical justification for that.

But you’ve seen hypocrisy among Democratic candidates that are closeted.
Not hypocrisy.

Closeted ones? There’s a few. 
Hypocrisy means that they’re antigay. You’re confusing secrecy and hypocrisy. Sure there are closeted Democrats. There are closeted Republicans. What we’re outing is hypocrisy. I want to go after their hypocrisy, not their privacy.

But aren’t closeted Democrats in a sense being hypocritical to what the party stands for?
No. Look, the party doesn’t stand for everybody announcing his or her personal sexual orientation. The party stands for public policies that say you don’t discriminate.

But in an ideal world, it would be nice if everybody just came out.
Yes, but that doesn’t make you hypocritical. I’m a great believer in using words very specifically.

I see that. Do you ever feel, Gee, I hope one of these years I never have to talk about gay issues in an interview? 
Yeah, but not because I mind talking about them. Someday they’re not gonna be issues anymore. But I would like to not have to talk about it, because I would like no 15-year-old to go through what I went through.

Did you ever, after what Dick Armey said about you [he called him “Barney Fag”]—did you ever talk to him or make up with him?
Yes, he tried to tell me it was a slip of the tongue, and I said nonsense.

Would that happen today?
No.

So what’s Jimmy like?
Oh, he’s wonderful. He’s open and fresh. He was never in politics.

And he surfs, right? 
He surfs all year round. He surfs in Maine in a wet suit. And he’s, uh, you know, he’s very caring. It’s nice to have somebody worry about you that way.

Let’s talk about your coming out. At that time, in ’87—
It was scary. I thought it would have a much more negative effect than it did. But I really just did it because I couldn’t 
not do it.

How did you do it? 
Interesting. By ’85, ’86, I was…See, I came to Washington in ’81. I’d been closeted all my life, from Massachusetts. I said, Okay, here’s the deal: I’m gonna be publicly closeted and privately active as a gay man. Like I said, you can’t live half gay and half closeted. So the insiders knew I was gay. But the rule then and now was—well, it’s slipping a little bit now—but the rule was, you don’t out somebody unless he or she was engaged in some scandal. Now, the problem there was, the only time people got to know who was gay was when we’d done something terrible. You know, they didn’t know from normal gay people who didn’t have troubles. Um, but so the press knew I was gay. So it then got to the point where I was thinking about coming out. Gerry Studds had already 
had to come out, although he was very courageous, because he acknowledged being gay, whereas everybody else who’d been caught claimed they were drunk. It’s incredible, these people who say when they’re drunk, they were able to do sexual things that they couldn’t do when they were sober. I don’t know people like that.

Like Mel Gibson. 
Right, “I was driving drunk out of my mind!” But, um, the press by ’85 was saying to me, “We would like to write about you being gay.” It’s fascinating. Here was the rule: They couldn’t write about it unless I gave them permission. So they would say, “Can we write about your being gay?” And I would say no. Finally, in early ’87, I decided that I was ready for them to write about it. But I didn’t want to be the one to bring it up, because I wanted to say, “Oh, it’s not a big deal.” Well, as I’ve said since, if your sexuality is not a big deal, you have my sympathy. Who wants to have a sexuality that’s no big deal? But I figured I had to minimize it, downplay it. So I could acknowledge it, but I couldn’t make a big deal of it. And I couldn’t have a press conference to announce something that I was prepared to say was not a big deal. So—
[Phone rings.] That’s Jimmy. [Picks it up.] Hey, I’m just talking about you…Yes, to GQ…And the interviewer thinks you’re handsome.

Very.
“Very,” she just said….“Very,” yes….
[Cups phone.] He said, “Wow.” [Huge smile.] .…What? Yeah, she saw the picture of the three of us….The one on the couch of me, you, and the president….Yeah, the one up on the couch….Where are you?...All right. Well, lemme call you back, so I can finish my interview….When you’re home? I will, okay….All right, okay….[Hangs up.] He says thank you.

By Lisa DePaulo

LISA DEPAULO is a GQ correspondent.


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